Everywhere We Blame the Mothers

On this Mother’s Day, I can’t help but think of a conversation I was in recently about girls and self-esteem where I was stunned by how much blame we put on the mothers.   Blaming the mothers for saying and doing and wearing things that “negatively impact a girl’s self esteem,” is pretty much the same thing as blaming the girls themselves.  I kept wanting to scream, “Can’t you see how women and girls are affected by the very same system?!?” Women say and do those things because we have all been brought up in a society that rejects the feminine….teaching us lies…teaching us that strong traits-like care and connection and compassion- are actually weak.  This is confusing and hurtful and is the real source of negative impact on our girls…and our boys.  This is the reason we have such a compassion deficit.

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On this Mother’s Day, I have written this poem for our mothers.

Below is the text of the poem…would love to hear what think.
What would our society look like if we actually praised mothers instead of blaming them?


we blame the mothers

mere humans

with the hardest job on earth

It’s so fun to pick

at their flaws

judge their choices

“I can’t believe anyone would do that…


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Twitter Poem #1: Hurricane Sandy

This is my dad
like a Jewish
The crisis sweeps north
             sweeps north

catastrophic, pure devastation
One Local Business Survived

Increase in #MobileDonations
would have intercepted it

1 million in Haiti
          A great list

Jimmy Fallon Encounters Lindsay Lohan
       we need cross-disciplinary knowledge

I make art collectively.  I like to practice taking seemingly random ideas from various people and putting them together to make something brand new.  Here’s how I created this, my first “Twitter Poem.”

  1. Searched “Hurricane Sandy.”
  2. Copied the first 10 tweets that came up in my feed into a new blank note.
  3. Underlined at least 1 phrase from every tweet that spoke to me in some way.
  4. Used every one of the underlined phrases.  The key is to force yourself to use them all.  That is part of the challenge and part of the fun.
  5. Moved them around on the page until I liked what was there.

This poem was written with the help of @FillWerrell@HuffPostEdu@marcapitman,
@cnnbrk@THR, and @JeffDSachs

Now, it’s your turn.  I would love to see what you come up with.