The number 1 reason I am sick & tired of going to the movies

It’s Friday.  I got a promotional email from Fandango today that read “You made it through the week…it’s movie time.”  Sounds nice.  But, I have no plans to go to the movies tonight.  What’s the point?

Should I see this?

Or this?

I have to say that I am just sick and tired of it.  I am sick and tired of the same old stories of (white) boys with the power to bring everybody together, change everyone’s hearts, and lead the rest of us to discover new areas of the human heart that we never thought possible.  It happens over and over again…It’s not just this new movie…it’s practically every inspirational, tear-jerker, family movie that you can recall.

Looks what happens when you Google “Inspirational Movies”

And I am sick and tired of the same old stories of (white) girls who are teeming with insanity, possessed by the devil, and the inevitable victim of some legendary psychopath.  It happens over and over again…It’s not just this new movie…it’s practically every blood-soaked, fear-inducing, scream-filled movie that you can recall.

Looks what happens when you Google “Horror Movies”

I am just sick and tired of the same old story in mainstream Hollywood.  Girls (white) are scary, crazy objects to be feared and killed.  Boys (white) are fearless leaders to emulate and aspire to become.  And the rest of us (black girls, black boys, queer folks, Immigrants, old folks, etc., etc., etc.) don’t really even matter that much unless we’re Will Smith, one of his kids, or needed to run from the above-mentioned scary girls or provide additional protection to the above-mentioned inspirational boys.

Like Fandango said, I made it through another long week.  I get to rest and relax and bring  myself some comfort with family and friends.  It’s too bad that I can’t do that at the movies.

 

 

 

 

Everywhere We Blame the Mothers

On this Mother’s Day, I can’t help but think of a conversation I was in recently about girls and self-esteem where I was stunned by how much blame we put on the mothers.   Blaming the mothers for saying and doing and wearing things that “negatively impact a girl’s self esteem,” is pretty much the same thing as blaming the girls themselves.  I kept wanting to scream, “Can’t you see how women and girls are affected by the very same system?!?” Women say and do those things because we have all been brought up in a society that rejects the feminine….teaching us lies…teaching us that strong traits-like care and connection and compassion- are actually weak.  This is confusing and hurtful and is the real source of negative impact on our girls…and our boys.  This is the reason we have such a compassion deficit.

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On this Mother’s Day, I have written this poem for our mothers.

Below is the text of the poem…would love to hear what think.
What would our society look like if we actually praised mothers instead of blaming them?

Everywhere

we blame the mothers

mere humans

with the hardest job on earth

It’s so fun to pick

at their flaws

judge their choices

“I can’t believe anyone would do that…

to…their…

children!” Continue reading