Gratitude is the Opposite of Entitlement

Although Thanksgiving has been over for more than a week, I cannot get gratitude out of my mind.  And my heart.  I really do believe that it is the number one superpower that can change any situation around and is the foundation for individual happiness and community healing.

Here’s the math:

Noticing all the things I am thankful for + Sharing them (With Myself/With Others) = “I have a pretty good life!”

Noticing all the things that piss me off + Sharing them (With Myself/With Others) = “My life sucks!”

And when we get to the “My life sucks” part of the equation, then there must be someone to blame.  I am a bad person.  My parents messed me up.  Politicians are only out to screw me.  My boss is jealous.  Etc.  Etc.  This loop only leads to an overblown sense of entitlement, which, according to Wikipedia is, “a symptom of narcissistic personality disorder, seen in those who “because of early frustrations…arrogate to themselves the right to demand lifelong reimbursement from fate.”

Gratitude and Entitlement

We certainly don’t need anymore of that.  This loop can stop with regular gratitude practice.  Do it for yourself, your family, your workplace.  Just…do it.

This post was inspired by an incredible blog post about gratitude that my partner wrote the other day on our Glitter & Razz blog.



It’s Always a Leadership Issue: Trickle Down vs. Bottom Up

Whether we describe them as “caring” or “ineffective” or “compassionate” or “strong” or “weak” or “just awful,” all leaders are in the position of deciding the fate of POWER and ENTITLEMENT in our organizations and communities.

Let me give you a couple of definitions that work for me:

POWER: The ability to act.  The force to get something done.

ENTITLEMENT: A guarantee offered by the community you are in that tells you you, just by the nature of being you, are part of that community.  I like to think of it as a “Welcome Home” sign at the front of the door. Continue reading